Advice On Doing Sports

I was planning to do this because this week is Band Camp for me. I mean, Color Guard is a sport, and so is marching. Therefore, I am including that into this category.

Color Guard: This is the group where, in a marching band show, are the people with flags/rifles/sabres/props who practically dance around the band members.

It is a crazy fun sport to be in, especially when the team is like family.


Here's the advice I have for being in the sport, and yes I'm saying this from the bottom of my heart.

1. Use a lot of Teamwork. Without teamwork, you aren't a team. For Marching band, if you don't count out loud your counts, or don't keep tempo or don't help others out, you are not being apart of the team. 
2. Be Supportive. If someone is looking like they're about to die from heatstroke, please ask if they're okay, or give them a pat on the back and a nice saying like "You're doing a good job" because self confidence in a sport is important. It helps even more if a fellow teammate is helping out.
3. Be Confident. Without confidence, there's no trying. Make the biggest mistake you can with your work, it's absolutely okay. It helps you remember that you need to fix it and try better next time.
4. Use your brain. I know being in basketball, that you have to remember a lot of things in order to beat the other team's booty. Marching band is like that, but with marching and trying to impress judges. If your brain isn't turned on, you aren't impressing anyone, you're making people lose trust in you. You need to know what you're doing, when, and know your next move (think ahead).
5. Never give up (quitters never win, and winners never quit). Don't think you can't do, or you're not capable of doing what you're being told to do. Everyone can achieve anything if they tried. Never quit doing something that you love, like I was forced into basketball because I felt as if my dad disliked my choices because he was so into it. I quit basketball because I didn't enjoy it and I felt as if I could put more effort into it. I love my sport, and I have never thought of quitting. Yes, we spend 6 hours in the blistering heat on a football turf, there's a lot of work involved, but It's an amazing feeling when it's over.

There's plenty more tips, just please remember that if you don't like a sport and you feel as if you're being pressured to do it, talk to your coach, then talk to that person who is pushing you to do it. It's wrong to make you do something you don't enjoy doing. Have fun with your life and school.

Please leave a comment or suggestion and I'll be sure to use them. Thank you~

Advice On Boredom

When I'm bored, I tend to lay around and most of the time eat my heart away with potato chips. I know there are better ways to handle boredom, and that is why I'm going to explain.

Why are people bored? What do they do?

• First of all, I believe they complain about being bored. They have to let the world know that they're bored in hopes of being reached to to solve that boredom.
• They might be bored because they don't want to do what they've been planning to do. I find myself in this situation a lot. In example, when I'm told to do chores I end up lounging around and procrastinating. Thus, making me bored.
• Maybe they didn't plan anything beforehand to do, and they kind of just sit around watching whatever they watch and get tired of what they're watching. They get bored of it. 

They're obviously infinite amount of things that can make anyone bored, or excited, so I can't just state all of those things down.

What to do when you find yourself bored (May not work for everyone)!

1. Get inspired. What are your favorite things to do? Watch something on Youtube that you like, take the idea, and do it. 
2. Learn something new that interests you. For me, I like to learn a lot about Psychology. Therefore I watch a lot of the science channels and history channels on TV. 
3. Do something that will make you laugh. What makes you laugh, obviously makes you happy therefore you'll be more inclined into watching/doing more of that. For example, I watch a lot of Ellen DeGeneres on Youtube and I end up watching the small skits for about an hour or two.
4. Watch movies. They're plenty of sites that you can find for free online movies. Especially your old childhood movies.
5. Go outdoors. Usually fresh air and a walk to a nearby park will help. Possibly go for a jog or swimming!
6. Get a Netflix account. I got one recently and it's been keeping me busy for sure!

That's usually all I find myself doing when I say that I'm bored. I mostly just find myself on my phone and laptop. Which is the usual teenage thing to do.

Please leave suggestions about what I should type about! I'll listen! Thank you!~

Yeah, I've been busy lately with IRL stuff, so I'm sorry about not posting much (everyday posting is hard anyhow, because I'm running out of topics).

How To Give Advice!

No, I cannot tell anyone how to tell a specific way to give advice. Although, I can give what I know and I hope you can take bits and pieces and use them in your own way.

I've been asked plenty of times, from different people, to give advice. Either in the fashion sense or relationships. It's usually all over the place.

Advice doesn't always work, because some people can get offended easily if they don't hear what they want to hear. That's usually the case.

1. Be truthful. Nothing is more better than honesty, and every opinion counts.
2. Listen to what they have to say. Every situation is a different one, so don't think you know everything about it.
3. Look at it through their point of view. If you've been through a situation that's similar, think about what you learned from. 
4. Think about the outcome if you don't give advice, versus the outcome if you do give your advice. All advice isn't bad, although most isn't good either. It's good to think about different situations this could branch off to, good or bad. 
5. Show empathy. In most situations, it comes naturally. You'll be more interested and more inclined to help, and possibly might have a better say in the situation.

Most of all, outcomes will vary with different situations.

I hope you the best!


Please leave a suggestion or question! It'd help me out to figure out what to write about! Thank you!~

Once again, sorry for not posting. I've been getting away from family drama and spent a few days with my friend.

How To Survive A [Troubled] Friendship!

There's a lot of things that could've caused you to read this.

Either you're having a problem with a friendship or, you found the link to my blog and you have no interest in reading it at all. Who knows!

Anyhow, I have had a few fault friendships in my lifetime (Either online or IRL) and it is a tough situation to be in.

Emotions might be flying through the roof, sh*t might hit the fan, I don't know. But what I do know is that you really probably don't want to lose that friend.

1. Talk it out. Nothing gets done when you're either using an owl to communicate or finding out through a rumour.
2. Talk to someone. Getting help should be the first thing you do, because you might ruin your chances when you're left alone in the dark.
3. Avoid apologizing over a text message. If you can, call them, or even better ask them to lunch and do it then. It really would make the other person possibly (most likely) gain more trust in you.
4. Try not to get other people involved! I've been on both sides of the stick in this situation, and it absolutely sucks. Once one person gets involved, a whole bunch more people do, and you end up having to go through WWIII.
5. Try to have a positive outlook on the situation, no matter how bad it is. 
6. Take a break from each other. At some point, possibly one of you are going to talk to the other again and it'll be a huge relief to know that everything might actually be okay with a little time away from each other.

I've had a lot of problems myself with maintaining a friendship. Honestly, if it feels more like a task than having to do it to have fun, don't continue. Let the other person know that, and maybe it might change or, once again, you could take a break. Friendships are the number one thing a person can have (in my opinion) and they're like little keys to the lock of your future.


I've honestly had plenty of online friends (met on different sites, but I promise none were met on a dating site) and it is a hard thing to handle. It's easier to spark problems and drama because the Internet is such a large community full of people of all ages. I promise you, I'm safe with my choices with my friends and none are "fake" and "rude".

I've dealt with sour relationships pretty bad when I was younger, and I absolutely regret those choices greatly. Every friend I have/use to have will always have a special place in my heart. They aren't mistakes, but they are lessons I have learned from.

**Please be responsible with your choices. I understand hatred might be an emotion you'll come across, but refrain from wishing death, or any other negative things. Take a breather and understand they are as equal as you are and they're as much as a person as you.

Thank you for reading and please leave a suggestion/question if you have any! Thank you!~

How To Survive [High] School!

I understand that school is going to be right around the corner (for me at least, I start on August 13th) and I'm sure there's always that one thing that keeps bothering us in the back of our minds.

Either it's:

• Where's my locker?
• Where are my classes?
• What will I need for my classes?
• Who are in my classes?
• Will I have lunch with my friends?
• Will I get good grades?
• Do I have enough credits?
• Could I keep my GPA up all year?

The list could go on and on.

I'm sure the most stressful things during the school year, is the first day of every semester or the report cards. I know I freak out over those things.

I'll be a Senior in high school this upcoming year, and I know it's a big thing. Looking for colleges and such is very stressful, and I now understand.

1. Don't panic. No matter what is wrong, take a breather and think it through in your head. If that doesn't work, talk to a trusted adult, or even better your counselor. That's what they're there for.
2. Avoid drama at all costs. It distracts you, stresses you, then you end up not doing as well as you could at your classes. I've learned that drama is pointless and it's a tough thing to deal with. Just stay uninvolved in any drama.
3. Do your homework. I know what's it's like to have a full schedule but please, put your homework first. The last thing your teachers want to see in a student is a responsible look. And it helps your grade in the long run, and also helps you in your quizes/tests. 
4. Make friends. Either you're a Freshman, or any classmen anyways, it's good to make friends. Usually topics of fun classes come up, or you could have a fun night out with everyone. They are also very supportive when you make the right choices. 
5. Don't put yourself in a situation that involves Peer Pressure. I know a few friends who had done very bad choices due to peer pressure. I could understand that that's a tough spot, but always say no when you feel uncomfortable. Remember you are your own person, and you control you. 

Please leave suggestions and/or questions! Thank you!~

(Sorry for the late post, I was so busy yesterday! I'll be posting 2 things today!)

How To Survive Horrible/Regreted Choices

For once, I do not have a story. Although, I do know that being a teenager, there are plenty of things I regret through my "Teen-age years" so far. Making mistakes and learning from them is practically what being a Teenager is all about, but the simplicity and even difficulty of getting over them can be sometimes difficult.

My number one regret and what guilt trips me all the time:

• Lying to my Parents.

This is a typical thing to do, even if I personally cannot stand lying. Both recieving and portraying. I end up not sleeping well, I feel awkward around my family, and I even offer to do things I most likely wouldn't do (Chores, babysit, etc). Even being in the spot I am now (My dad is blocked on my phone, I refuse to talk to him) I even feel worse now that I have a "Step-Dad" whom I refuse to lie to.

My Advice for Lying:
  Don't do it. I guess white-lies are alright, but if it's a major one like lying where you're going (Something terrible could happen and they'd have no clue where you are or something), Relationships (Boyfriend/Girlfriends) etc. 

• Past Relationships

I do regret most of my boyfriends over time. Although it's more than just being betrayed, it's the lying and the suffering I had to go through and the overwhelming feeling of happiness when the relationship would end. Although, once again, being a teenager is tough and you feel the need to find "true love" and you think it's the most wonderful thing in the world, well..

My Advice for "Getting Over Past Relationships"
It's not. The one group of people I find the most supportive are my friends. Not my family, but my friends. And if you have a best friend of the opposite sex (Which is typical), and you find you have more feelings than you'd like to admit, DON'T DO IT. Keep your relationship as friends so you don't ruin it and regret it! If your past partner was , or your current partner is, abusive (Let me state this: I have never been in an abusive relationship, I've never had a friend who was, I'm just saying this because I'm assuming it's a hard time and I'm sorry if I portray this in a wrong way) please understand you don't deserve any of that. No human deserves to "love" someone who harms you. If it's something you're going through now, either sit down and confront the situation (as scary as that sounds) or simply break up with that partner due to the lack of happiness. If that was in the past, I promise you that was just a bit of bad luck and it'll get better. No one deserves to go through that.

• Not Listening To Advice

You can receive advice from plenty of people, over plenty of different topics. I definitely regret not listening to my family and friends. There's a lot of things I did that I shouldn't have, and I now know that it was wrong of me and I was punished accordingly.

My Advice for Receiving Advice(?)
I do understand there are things you can do that can make you feel like you're on the top of the world. As an example, daring tricks such as jumping off of high surfaces, not listening to the cooking directions on a brownie box, or even  a simple thing "Don't feed the fish". (Yes I accidentally killed fish with pepper thinking it was fish food when I was about 4-5. I'm sorry). Please do whatever you can and listen to as much advice as you can. It's a funny concept because most people are like "You're nuts, I've been wanting to do this my whole life" or such and such.. It can be a serious thing to others. Please respect that. People, especially family and friends, make sure you're safe and want to know and make a promise to you to help reassure them that you'll listen. If you don't listen, well you might lost their trust, friendship, or you might be upset when the dreaded sentance some out:

"I told you so!"      

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Please ask me any questions you have, or leave me suggestions. I'd love to help you out! Thank you!
 

How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship!

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I'll start with my story:

My relationship started on March 3, 2012. (I was 15, boyfriend was 14 at the time). We were friends and started to talk before we ever had a thing for each other (although he claims he had a crush on me). I honestly didn't like him when we first met for the very first time. I thought he was some "lying fake". But I did end up getting to know him and such, and we finally wanted to give "us" a shot. I didn't like him the same way at first, I was only just getting over an 11 month relationship I had. Yes, obviously, I did end up loving him as much as I do today.

I live in St. Charles, Missouri, and he lives in Belfast, Northern Ireland. Yes, that is a big jump, no I'm not going to go through a story of how we met (That could be for another topic, honestly). Through these 2.4 years of dating him, we have Skyped every night unless we absolutely couldn't. We did do face cams when I thought I was in for them, and yes, it is very fun to do that.

But our relationship is different than most, which is okay because I understand. His friends and family don't know about me yet. Yes, I've talked to him, yelled at him, guilt tripped him, plenty of times but through all of that I finally understand. He just doesn't want to be "made fun of" from his friends and he doesn't like discussing his private life to his parents. My parents and friends know about him, and we're actually going to see each other next summer! Although I have met his friends and played video games with them, they just don't know about my boyfriend and I.

We've had rough times, we do argue sometimes like an "old married couple", but in the end we're very very happy with each other. We did go through a "we don't talk about that" phase, which I won't talk about because it's almost way too personal.

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Here's the advice:

1. Even if you are a few cities away, a few states/provinces away, or even ocean(s) apart, COMMUNICATE! I personally use Skype for this, but you may choose whatever you want. (PERSONAL EXPERIENCE)
2. Let your friends know of this relationship! They could give you tips and/or help you through certain situations!
3. You need a lot of patience, because you aren't always to get what you expect. It takes a lot of time to do things!
4. Have activities to do with each other. In example, Online-Video Games, Word games over the phone, or possibly even some Gossip!
 

That's as much as I can think of. If you have suggestions, tips, or even questions and your own stories, please let me know! I'll be happy to answer you!

How to Survive a Parent's Divorce!

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I'll start with my story:

So recently (I mean May 4th), my parents got into a big argument at 4 in the morning. My sister ended up texting me to wake me up, and she told me:

"Mom cheated on Dad"

I ended up texting her back:

"Seriously?"

And ran up to the family room. And my dad was acting weird as my mom was sitting there, saying "Go fix my car".

My dad, being a Mechanic, disabled my mom's car due to the lack of trust he had in her. She was out late with a group of friends on a Sunday night into a Monday morning. He didn't want her going out again.

I was in the room, my sister (13 years old) was in her room (kind of coming in and out), and my brother (9 years old) was in the room.

My dad kept shouting vulgar words at my mom like "You're a whore/slut" and kept saying how her "fuck" was waiting for her across town. He kept repeating himself then he said the most scariest words I've ever heard him say.

"I will go to jail if I have to to beat up this guy's ass"

He started THREATENING to go to Jail now. That's kind of when I knew there's something up with him. (He took what he said seriously, I'll explain that later). He was doing body movements I've never seen him do, and it was so bad, I had to call my friend to come pick me up that morning since I didn't trust my dad driving me to school.

So I ended up going to school that day, awake since 4 in the morning and home at 2:20. I was doing some research and while my dad was freaking out, he had the guy's (his predicted guy my mom was cheating on him with) name and I decided to look him up on Facebook. Yes, I found him. I did what I shouldn't have done.

I messaged him.

He told me everything. My mom NEVER cheated, so let's get that over the fence. They've known eachother for over 20 years and worked together as Security in Target. They dated back when my mom was a Senior in HS, and he (Ken) was a Freshman in College. So I figured:

"Hey my mom's finally happy and I haven't seen her so happy, so I'm happy."

Ken is such a nice, funny guy and I think he'd be a great Father figure for my little brother.

Anyways, I got home and my dad took my mom's phone and kept it, he kept writing down things from my mom's phone, wrote Ken's phone number on the BATHROOM SHOWER WALL WITH A SHARPIE so he "couldn't forget it".

The fights contiued through the Tuesday morning, and this is something that threw me off.

My mom asked "So, do you want to get a Divorce?" and my dad, without a second to spare, answered "No."

I laughed.

Anyways, on that Wednesday, after school, my mom left me a text saying she wasn't coming back. Not until her Lawyer and her find out something to do and to keep her safe. She was at Kens, but we had to keep telling my dad that she was at Grandpa's.

On the Thursday morning (Or Wednesday?) I went to my Psychology teacher about everything. She was also my History teacher, last block of every day. She was the one who helped me through it. "Remember to be a kid", "You're very strong", etc. She had me go to the counselor, and with my mom's permission, my counselor told my sister and brother's too about everything.

To add to the "Threatening to go to Jail", my dad came home about 2-3 hours late Thursday night. The reason being, he went to Ken's work (Telling my mom he had a gun in his toolbox), he lied about who he was working for, and wanted to go to the work to beat Ken up. He was searched, the car was searched, and there wasn't a weapon (Thank God, I don't know what I would've done home alone with the Kids). He came home all proud, and kept saying "I feel like I defeated the big bad wolf" and "I don't feel like a wuss anymore".(By then, I was scared sh*tless).

So that Thursday night, my dad came down to my room and talked to me for about 3 hours. I just told him mom needed space, etc. He got me involved with the Bills, Money, all this adult stuff. (It honestly sucked). But it was mainly me reassuring him that everything will be okay, even though I knew it wasn't at all.

Skipping to that Friday (The day I had my AP Lang & Comp Test), after school, the Police came and picked up my dad.My mom came with her best friend's husband and picked up my siblings and I to stay somewhere else for the weekend.

I haven't seen my dad since.

Until the 4th of July parade I was marching in.

He got a haircut, shaved, lost about 40-50 pounds, his eyes were nearly bloodshot, it was scary. My grandma was there too.

But life with my mom hasn't been perfect, but she's practically living off my grandpa's money until Child Support is in. We're with her "Boyfriend" (Ken, lool), at his apartment. It's really nice here, he has a 4.5 year old girl who's very sweet. I'm deffinately less stressed than I was with my dad. Even though my mom drinks and only got drunk ONCE (which she hadn't had anything to eat that day, I was still nonetheless upset with her), I still think life here was 100% better than with my dad.

Yes, we visited a "Child Lawyer" on my dad's request so us kids had a say in who we stayed with. I'm crossing my fingers that I only see my dad every other weekend. (He works full time, off on every other Saturday and off on every Sunday. Works from 8am-4pm). So he probably wouldn't be able to see us then anyways.

No, I'm not picking either parent's side, I just want to be where I think my health is best.

Although, my dad's lying about my mom saying she's a drug addict, etc. If he's going to lie to make my mom look like a bad person, he doesn't need to talk to me.

He also told me (over the phone at some point) that he got a Vasectomy. 

Also, my brother was staying the night at my Godmother's house (Once again, the house we stayed at when my dad got taken from the police), I've told my dad, told him he couldn't go there to visit my brother, he insisted, but instead called the police and they arrived 10 minutes AFTER mom and Ken picked him up. Thank goodness.

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Here's the advice:

1. If you get stressed out, PLEASE go to someone you trust! School teacher, Counselor, Friend! They care for you as much as a parent would! (FROM PERSONAL EXPERIENCE)
2. If you feel like you have to pick a side of a parent/One parent is bashing on the other one to you, SIMPLY ask them to stop! Since they are going through this horrible mess and want to seem like the good parent you should stay with, they will SPOIL you! Ask for space, they will give it! (PERSONAL EXPERIENCE)
3. Go somewhere you enjoy! Swimming, Sports, Friend's House, anywhere to keep your mind off of "The Situation"! It honestly helps to clear your mind/let your emotions out. It's healthier too! (PERSONAL EXPERIENCE) 
4. If you feel as if you are "The New Adult", please go act like a kid! Go have fun!

I care for everyone going through this situation, or have already gone through it. I understand it absolutely sucks. It makes time go by fast, and before you know it, it'll be over with. It's still not over for me yet, but it doesn't last forever and I know I (and you) can get through it!

Please don't be afraid to ask me questions, I would love to help you!

Newest Advice Blog!

This is going to be an Advice Blog!

I'm sure there are a lot of people out there like me. Kudos to those who want to help out teenagers!

I want to do just that, help anyone of all ages, with any problem they have. 

I mean anything.

I'll share my own stories, I'll put my views out there, and share my love.

Thank you all!